“So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.”
Genesis 1:27 (NIV)
Men and women are different, it’s obvious, good, and a line that should never be blurred. Jimmy and I have been married 31 years, plenty of time to compare notes on our differences. He sees things black and white, I’m distracted with color. I mull over issues till they turn to mush, he cuts to the chase. I listen to soothing music, he watches calamity.
We are very different, just as it should be. To fog the line is to shake a fist in the face of God.
God created mankind in His image. Men and women are similar but different, each still in His image. Evidently God planted His masculine qualities in man and His softer attributes to the woman. The Bible describes Him on both ends of the spectrum, head of the church, provider, victor, just, powerful, strong, and wrathful — qualities befitting a male. Then He’s described with words that sooth and comfort like healer, sustainer, comforter, and full of mercy, grace, peace, and love.
While any of these qualities can cross gender lines to varying degrees, each tend to fall generally toward one.
A friend shared a hypothetical that God created Adam in His image (as scripture states) but upon creating Eve, made her from the part of Adam that held the softer attributes of God, making the first couple very different, very similar, and in His image.
It’s like the enemy to pit man against woman to achieve equality when together they are in fact most whole.
Jimmy and I soften each other’s rough edges. He toughens me up and I foster the softer more compassionate side of him. Our connection is complimentary and has proven most valuable amidst grief, which we each do it so differently. But, that’s a good thing! When he’s up I’m down and I’m up when he dips. We’ve learned to thank God for our differences because when they’re respected we will be blessed.
How are you different from your spouse? Have you thanked God for the contrast?
Lord, I often want things to go my way and struggle with those who buck against my desires. But the world would be boring, perhaps much more challenging if everyone were like me. Help me to see those around me with your eyes of love and compassion.